| Porn |
[Dec. 20th, 2009|01:18 pm] |
So, what do you all do for porn? Google is mostly worthless... It doesn't seem like much of anyone has thought to just leave a camera running while some people are having sex and then publish the result. And of course if you actually open a website, god knows what kind of pop-up hell you'll end up in.
I don't want to put any limitations on what kind of stuff to post links to here, because it might be a useful reference for others. Well, ok - one restriction. I'm sort of tired of the prepubescent anime characters showing up in results all the time.
Edit to add: I should probably clarify what I meant by the comment "why not just leave a camera running while people have sex". By that I mean that there's something sort of fake and inorganic about porn-style porn. It's just not sex. You know, they cut to a clip of a different position every 12 seconds, and they use weird angles so the camera can zoom in on the genitals, and if there's any dialog at all, it mostly just serves the function of reminding you that it's fake and that they're doing it for the money.
Sometimes if you specifically look for amateurs you can find something better, like a lot more relaxed, and occasionally you can find some conviction or something. Like, they'll clutch at each other and go for it because they want it and they're not thinking "oh hey, the dudes watching this will think that they're gay if my ass blocks the camera too much, so I should probably lean away and make a really stupid porn face", or whatever.
Anyway... porn should be great, but it mostly isn't. |
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| How to make a very subbie man less passive in the bedroom |
[Dec. 20th, 2009|04:37 am] |
*edited from a tl;dr situation*
I have been with my sub for 2 years and mostly everything is great. But once in a while I would like him to be a bit more active (not aggressive, just less passive) in bed. However, I think that he feels that this is not 'sub' behaviour and so isn't comfortable (we've talked about this a few times and to his credit, he does try). What can I do to make him more comfortable being less passive? |
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| newbie needing advice |
[Dec. 18th, 2009|11:55 pm] |
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So I have always been turned on by the thought of being the "s" in a D/s relationship. I have been monogamous with a guy for 3 yrs, and finally trusted him enough to go ahead and buy the riding crop and tell him what I wanted. He's done a bit of beating, and a bit of rough sex, but he seems to be a bit flustered about the whole D thing. He told me that he needed ideas for punishments / scenarios. I discovered that we BOTH really like it when I show up in nothing but a coat and nipple clamps and bend over the couch lol. fun times, but I would like some more pain play, and once we get started he gets into it....we just seem to have a hard time getting started. I have to ask him to hit me most times, and I would really like him to take the initiative more. I know he gets really turned on by the idea, and has even mentioned the desire for blood play (which I am totally not ready for just yet, although maybe once I know my pain tolerance levels better) but he says he is afraid he will take things too far. I think that's why he shys away from it sometimes. I did pick a safeword, and have only had to use it once. Anyone have ideas? |
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| Earning a collar |
[Dec. 16th, 2009|07:29 pm] |
I'm interested in specific stories or journal posts regarding how subs have gone about earning their collars.
I know that not everyone does this but it's important to me.
Thank you. :) |
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| Interest in bloodplay |
[Dec. 14th, 2009|05:54 pm] |
My boyfriend and I are looking into pushing our current boundaries and are both interested in bloodplay - or more specifically, him cutting me.
We are not new to kinks or to knives, but our experience with those is mostly to intensify play through intimidation as well as enjoying the feel of cold steel on flesh. So, as I said, we want to take it a bit further.
My question is, for those with experience, where do we begin?
We know the obvious safety concerns and precautions to take, but beyond that - best tools of the trade, tips, further readings and ways to ease into it and eventually enhance the play?
More for me, while I can take a pretty good whipping, I feel that cutting is different on the pain scale. While we all have our own thresholds, any idea on what I can expect as the receiver and anything in particular I should know about my role?
Any advice or further reading you could provide would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance! |
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